To be honest, I’m still kinda getting the hang of this parenting thing, and my 3-year-old is more than willing to provide guidance and suggestions. For example, when I had no clue as to what to give him for a snack, he announced, “I want bread and butter,” then proceeded to open the cupboard and point to a jar of brown stuff. Sure he left out the word “peanut” but hey, success: score 1 for Mommy who gave him a cool kid snack – bread and peanut butter!
One time he announced: “Mommy, I want you to buy me marshmallows in the supermarket,” and I thought: “Great! I hadn’t thought of marshmallows. That’s another great kid snack to add to my arsenal of tasty treats; to be used either as a regular snack, or I could gain even more mileage out of it if I used it as a reward for good behavior!”
So I got the marshmallows, and my 3-year-old said “Mommy, I’d like five marshmallows.”
But I responded, “No, that stuff is too sweet. You’re getting four marshmallows.” Then I put the four in a bowl, and placed the bowl on the table in front of him.
He counted them and said with disappointment: “But I wanted five!”
To which I responded, “No, you’re getting four, but Mommy is so proud of you that you can count to five!”
Now granted, while I would choose having my parents be proud of me over five marshmallows any day; I wouldn’t expect Kid #2 to ignore the fact that he was not getting the 5 marshmallows that he wanted, long enough for him to bask in the fact that his Mommy was proud of him.
However for those of us who are older than 3, would we, could we, consider a broader perspective when we don’t get our way? Could we open our minds to the possibility that perhaps we have gotten, or will be getting something better?
Well how about you? Why not share with us about those times when you didn’t get your way, but ended up getting something better?