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This blog post is about how to get lucky, or to put it another way, how to see your luck in a different light. Ever wondered why it seems that just when things are going well, something happens to mess it up?

Take me for example: my older son had just started a new school, and I wondered how I could be productive during the time I had to wait at his school, until classes dismissed and I could take him home. I had so many books to read and so many courses I wanted to get through online. Could I get to work on any of the things on my to-do list during the 20-minute wait time?

Then I had the brilliant idea that I could bring my laptop along and work on some of my courses while I waited. So here I was, sitting on a bench outside one of the classrooms with my laptop, all pumped up, happy to be productive during the wait time, and then a teacher walks up to me and unceremoniously announces that parents are not allowed to sit outside the classrooms while class is in progress. Imagine my disappointment! Did I mention I’d been all pumped up?

Well it turned out that while I was not allowed to sit outside the classroom, it was okay to sit in the students’ eating area; but before I was fed that titbit of welcome news, my emotions took a real turn for the worst. In hindsight, the response I gave that teacher (my bearer of bad news) could have been…let’s just say a bit nicer.

What I have also come to realize, is that my response would have also been more pleasant, if I had not been surprised by the turn of events, but even expected it. Now I’m not saying to expect bad things to happen – I’m a firm believer in expecting good, positive things. What I am saying is to expect that life will not always go smoothly, and that’s okay. If we’re not surprised when the unexpected happens, then we will be in a better position to act in a controlled manner when it happens; and not react in an out of control way because life has thrown us a curve ball. This is how to get lucky, a.k.a. ‘how to deal with life when stuff happens’.

So next time it rains on your parade, and things don’t work out as you had hoped, don’t think of it as bad luck, but instead step back from the situation emotionally , and think of the difficulty as one of those challenges that happen as part of life; then begin to strategize in terms of how you’re going to get over, under, around or through that mountain. Instead of allowing yourself to be taken by surprise and becoming a basket case, you will be more in control of your emotions and in a better position to come up with creative solutions to the problem.

How about you: in what situations has life thrown you a curve ball? And could a different perspective have helped you to handle things better? Share your thoughts with us!


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